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Good to Know's avatar

The way you described your experience with your dad,, and how your experience as a child makes it hard now to form male relationships is so familiar to me. I think I've said exactly what you said, word for word. It's good to see a kindred spirit here! Making guy friends is already kind of hard, and as a dad, even more so. I think it's been helpful for me to get in the mode of "connector" and just be the one that goes to a dad's group, sends texts to make plans, and put the onus on me to make the effort. It hasn't yielded all of the fruit yet, but all we can do is make an effort, like you said.

This topic has been on my mind as well, I appreciate the way you detailed this very universal struggle for new-ish dads!

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Cory Checketts's avatar

You hit the nail on the head. I have three small boys, which means we go to the park often. I've made "park friends" but that's about it. Most of the dads I meet either have kids older than mine or we don't share similar interests.

I loved the line "it’s more about them than me, and that’s fine". I also came to this conclusion and do my best not to force anything with other dads. I let the know I'm available to hang out and it's up to them.

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