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Rosalyn - This Is Me Writing's avatar

It’s not a holiday, it’s a family trip. Perhaps a bit depressing but it’s helped me through some tricky moments when I’ve forgotten that it won’t be like a pre child holiday- it just can’t be.

It always helps us to go back to places we know and love (loads less to figure out so it is more relaxing), to write a shopping list for the supermarket before I go (again, less to think about) and to budget for as many nice things/treats as we can. Oh and we still take the push chair even though the 4 year old would never use one at home. Holidays often involve a lot more walking and he’ll doze off happily, leaving us to have a mid afternoon cocktail. Now that is a holiday!

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Brad Kelley's avatar

I think you’re right—in fact it’s kind of like when you have a child in the first place. If you try to carry on like normal then you’re going to drive yourself round the bend.

And of course, a mid afternoon cocktail helps with everything!

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Rosalyn - This Is Me Writing's avatar

And so many of us do think (or kid ourselves) life will continue as normal going into parenting. It alllll changes.

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Rich Bolus's avatar

Yep, there’s a lot to be said for removing as many variables as possible when the aim of the holiday is to relax.

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Rich Bolus's avatar

Hi Brad,

The best travel tip I have is to listen to the Harry Potter audiobooks (read by Stephen Fry) when on long journeys with the family. The kids (and even my wife—who was never a HP fan) were rapt for hours.

Rich

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Jan & Quill's avatar

We've used a similar tactic for my 4 year old. Not HP but my Mum actually recorded her reading a few stories on this little device, and it saved us so many times on planes, in restaurants, etc. Genius!

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Brad Kelley's avatar

That is actually genius! Would it be considered too lazy if I use recordings of myself at every bedtime? 😅

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Rich Bolus's avatar

That’s such a great idea. I’m totally stealing that

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Brad Kelley's avatar

Will definitely be trying that out in future!

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Jan & Quill's avatar

A great read - thank you! We returned from our first holiday as a 4 in May and there were many, many *unexpecteds* to navigate... namely national holidays we knew nothing about and therefore everything closed for the first three days. The result - we had nothing to eat in our self-catered apartment for the first days. My son wanted to try mussels for the first time and got super ill... no supermarkets open to buy new nappies, etc etc, I could go on. But I will say that it was worth it.

I love the advice of boarding last, that is an excellent idea. Also of keeping the schedule as loose as possible.

My best tips to add to the mix are:

- try to book flights for when they are likely to nap and tire them out in the airport (get there early and find a play area). Staying overnight beforehand is an excellent idea - we did this and it created a really nice vibe before the holiday.

- pack snacks that take a long time to eat (!)

- before you arrive, find a playground nearby to your destination for little ones to run off steam

- if you have more than one child, one parent takes them for a few hours to give the other a break. Then you swap.

Vive les vacances!

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Brad Kelley's avatar

Oh my goodness what a nightmare! That would have stressed me out big time—kudos for navigating all that!

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